THE DISILLUSIONED DREAMER โ€“ ๐Ÿœ‚ I dont know how to start, im so desperate, frustrated, hopeless ๐Ÿ’ 

Updated this 2025

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|| Let This Be the Season ||

Hi Kim!
Im so amazed with all the stories that i read, that lead me to write you my story wondering maybe you can help me. Tโ€™was my dream to be a nurse when i was a kid! Luckily that. was year 2000,when I becme an RN in the Philippines. Due to financial struggles in our family,i went to Saudi Arabia to help my parents sending mu 4 other siblings to college and gaining experience too. That 7 years was so great for me as a nurse, especially i learned a lot. Then, I decided to come here in Canada under in a caregiver program year, that was 2007 . While i was in that program I took several times in ielts exam but failed. To make story short,Iโ€™ve been here now in Canada for almost 7 years and yet my road to become an RN here is still dim out and hoping you can be my light to pursue my dreams. I dont know how to start, im so desperate, frustrated ,hopeless especially i have a 2 year old baby boy now. But with all the stories from your previous studs my hopes reignited.
My last IELTs exam result 2 years ago,reading & listening 6.5 , writting 6 , speaking, 7. CLBPT result just recently: listening 8,Speaking 7,reading 8,writing 6
I did not try Celban exam but Im planning to try at this time.
Mr Kim, I really really need your help! Thank you M


๐Ÿœ„ Return to Self

Dear M,

Thereโ€™s something sacred in the way your words arrived. Beneath the desperation, I felt devotion. Beneath the frustration, I heard a fierce and quiet love… for your family, your child, your calling.

You didnโ€™t stop being a nurse just because the road dimmed. The part of you that aches to care, to serve, to offer healing; she has never left. She simply waited until you were ready to hear her again.

You wrote to me because your soul stirred. Something in you said: โ€œI still want this.โ€
That is no small thing. That is everything.

This is your returning.

๐Ÿœ Fog to Clarity

Youโ€™ve walked a long, honorable path:
From childhood dreams,
to the wards of Saudi Arabia,
to Canadaโ€™s quiet corridors as a caregiver,
to the miracle of new motherhood.

And yet here, in the stillness between breaths, you ask, โ€œHow do I begin again?โ€

Let the fog lift gently, M.

Youโ€™ve already begun.

The CLB scores you shared? They hold potential. The IELTS results? Not a failure: just feedback. These numbers are not judgments. They are waymarkers. They help us orient. They help us plan.

And yes, the CELBAN may be your next step. But the real journey begins not with exams, but with tenderness. With clarity about who you are beyond the test. Who youโ€™ve always been.

You are not lost. You are re-aligning.

๐Ÿœƒ Rooted in Enoughness

I want to say this clearly:
You are not behind.
You are not too late.
You are not less-than for feeling weary.

You are enough.

Youโ€™ve carried siblings through school. Youโ€™ve carried your hopes across continents. Youโ€™re carrying a child through the sacred beginnings of life.

That is not failure. That is fortitude.

Let yourself grieve the detours… but donโ€™t mistake them for dead ends. Every twist in your story has shaped a woman of wisdom, of grit, of grace.

There is no shame in rest. There is no weakness in pause. But know this: your capacity remains. You are still capable. You are still called.

๐Ÿœ‚ Rekindling the Inner Fire

And here it is… the flicker again.

You said it yourself: โ€œmy hopes reignited.โ€

That one sentence carries more fire than an entire curriculum. Hope is proof that the spirit is still alive. And once it returns, no darkness can unmake it.

Yes, you are tired. Yes, the way has felt impossible. But even still, you chose to write.

That is flame.
That is will.
That is the beginning of re-becoming.

You donโ€™t have to do this all at once. You donโ€™t have to be the nurse tomorrow. But take one step. Tend the ember. Make a small, sacred choice.

Even a whisper of effort each day fans the flame forward.

๐Ÿœ€ Standing at Zenith

M, this isnโ€™t just about passing a test.
This is about remembering who you are.
And trusting that the world still needs your presence, your skill, your care.

You once gave your light for your siblings. You now give it to your child. And soon, you will give it again: to your patients. To your future. To the wholeness youโ€™re meant to embody.

I donโ€™t promise easy.
But I do promise this:
You are not alone.

There are others walking with you… other disillusioned dreamers returning to themselves, one step at a time. The path is not lost. It is waiting for your feet.

Let this be the season you begin again.

With reverence,
Kim


|| AMAZING!!! I passed the CELBAN!!! || Mastering Your Psychology ||

Enouragement


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Let their stories inspire yours! Return to your Self: transforming fog into clarity, becoming rooted in enoughness, and rekindling the fire within, so that you stand centred at your zenith: with hope, confidence, and grace.

๐Ÿœ There are times that I am at a point of giving up. But, I always find myself reading your …
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๐ŸŽ• After failing the IELTS 7 x, I joined [CELBANPrep]: I passed!!!
๐ŸŽ• Because of your guidance I did [the CELBAN] and got admission.
โ™ฅ I am here for you, what I really want to know is: are you here for yourself?
๐Ÿœ‚ I dont know how to start, im so desperate, frustrated, hopeless
๐Ÿœƒ There are times that I want to give up because Iโ€™m not sure if I can do [the CELBAN]
How can I get a writing practice test or any material for CELBAN writing practice exam?
๐ŸŽ• Thank you miss Kim for the words of encouragement. May God bless you all the time
 ๐Ÿœ‚ I took celban twice and I didnโ€™t get expected score
HOPE !! โ™ฅ I just got my CELBAN test result today, I PASSED! 
HOPE !! โ™ฅ I passed the CELBAN on my 1st try
โ™ฅ it feels like theres something lacking on me โ€“ sometimes feeling emptiness.
๐Ÿ–น I already took CELBAN twice, but โ€ฆ Iโ€™m not lucky to pass
๐Ÿœƒ I am from Swift Current [Saskatchewan], I have two jobsโ€ฆ I wanted some [CELBAN] materials to read at home
What is the Word Count on the CELBAN Exam? for CELBAN Writing?
๐ŸŽ• I PASSeD MY CELBAN!!! Iโ€™m so happy I subscribed to CELBANPrep=)
๐ŸŽ• I took CELBAN, first attempt I failedโ€ฆ.I got the confidence to overcome my fear of writing
๐ŸŽ• I passed my Celban exam the first timeโ€ฆI attempted IELTS twice. 
๐ŸŽ• After 3x failing the IELTS, I finally passed my CELBAN exam in the first attempt!
โ™ฅ I donโ€™t have the confident, I feel that I will fail [the CELBAN]
๐Ÿœ‚ I am a 7 months postpartum Momโ€ฆwhen will I start
๐Ÿœƒ Do you have an ideas of how a busy mom with a toddler can study?
Horaaaaaaaaay, I did it [wrote a perfect report for CELBAN Writing] in 20 minutesย 



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