♥ I failed my nursing exam and i felt ashamed.

Dear Kim:
Thank you so much. It’s really hard, living in new country, and not to mention the long process of registration.
I failed my nursing exam on June, and i felt ashamed. But after your e-mail I know now that al lot faced difficulties when they came to Canada, and
I should keep trying and work harder to achieve my dreams.
Regards,

Dear  D,

I appreciate you taking the time to write, and to share this very intimate experience. It is a sad thing that such feelings of shame are so common among professional immigrants striving to achieve their individual goals. No one comes to Canada to feel shame, but to fulfill dreams. No one comes to Canada to be treated poorly or feel humiliated. Yet it happens time and time again. I am glad that after reading my writing that you feel encouraged and have reestablished a sense of hope. This is my main goal when it comes to IEPC and CELBANPrep! What is a dream without hope? How can one obtain a dream without feeling good about one self?

The wonderful thing is that you will now be a source of inspiration to others who will read your message on Dear Kim. Those who have failed their exam and have felt the same shame will read your message and find inspiration. They will see you as a leader shining the light of hope on the path before them that has become so dark.

I can tell you, working with Internationally Educated Professionals has been a great inspiration to me as I see people repeatedly fail, and repeatedly pick themselves up and continue on the individual paths towards individual but similar dreams. And I have celebrated with great joy not only when the dream comes to pass, but each marker along the way. Remember to always celebrate the landmarks. so many people focus on the fact that they failed an exam without celebrating the things they did well. For example I often get people who failed CELBAN because of a low score in listening. They often fail to notice that they passed in three skills: reading, speaking and writing!

Another thing, when considering the CRNE I am certain that you passed all of the medical questions. I am certain that your knowledge and experience allowed you to do well on these parts because you are very intelligent. I am also certain that the parts you did not get correct have to do with the Canadian Culture. So, in order to pass next time, which you will with time and effort, is to focus on turning your weaknesses into strengths. Do all that you can to understand the implications of our cultural values on nursing practice, professional practice, and communication. Do some research, and use the books that Canadian educated nurse candidates use. Find out how you can borrow those books from the local college or university library.

At all times remember, if the strategy you are using is not getting you to your goals, change your strategy. It is not you that failed, it is the strategy that you used that failed. Change the strategy; change the results.

And please, please, let me know what you are doing, and how it goes.

Sincerely,
Kim

One response to “♥ I failed my nursing exam and i felt ashamed.

  1. Dear D
    I read your piece of writing on the forum, and you brought tears to my eyes. I have been through the very same thing as you, not just once , but many times. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone out there. You will become stronger and stronger, and yes one day, just like me you will see the brightest and most beautiful rainbow in the sky, that will speak to you in the most loving and caring way. It is going to tell you just how very special you are and will always be as a nurse.

    Good luck. May your life be filled with sunshine and warm smiles all the way long!

    You are truly blessed to have KIM as your teacher. Words cannot express how kind and considerate she is. She gives HOPE another beautiful meaning altogether.

    Sincerely.
    R

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